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John 6:51

I am the living bread that came down from heaven. If anyone eats this bread, he will live for ever. This bread is my flesh, which I will give for the life of the world.

The marriage that God ordained

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The marriage that God ordained
Divorce was never an option in the eyes of God
It is better not to marry - Mathew 19:10?
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It is a holy union that requires the daily presence of God
The reality of separation and divorce
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He said to them, “Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. – Mathew 19:8.

One of the areas where as citizens of the kingdom we need to pay close attention to what is required of us is in the area of marriage. It is sad to see Christian marriages and homes being torn apart in the same manner as those who do not belong to the kingdom.

It is sad to see how a union that was fashioned after the indivisible union of the Trinity (Godhead) is being torn apart by the same manner of strife and conflicts that are wrecking havoc upon homes and marriages of non-believers. It is sad when the marriages of those whom are called to be a shining light and salt to the world are also crumbling under the same weight of burden.

There is a reason behind this sad spate of events and this can be traced to the fact that a number of Christian marriages are being built upon the principles and ideologies of the world as opposed to the sound foundation laid down by the principles of the kingdom of God. What makes this sad is that they conveniently forget that the one who is the head of the Kingdom is also the one who created and ordained the institution of marriage. It is therefore sad when they choose to conveniently ignore the principles which he laid down to ensure we who subscribe to his kingdom and it’s principles, may have a union that is able to thrive and overcome the conflicts that appears to wrecking havoc on homes of those who are not of the kingdom.

The truth be told, the position of God with regards to marriage among those who are called to be his people remains unchanging and this position is captured for us succinctly with the following points:

  1. It is a union instituted for procreation of mankind and for nurturing them in the knowledge and ways of their Creator.

    Every creature that God created he assigned a role or a ministry to them, if we read the book of Genesis we can see that even nature was given her own role, we see this through the commandments that God gave while creating the various elements of nature:

    Then God said, “Let there be lights in the firmament of the heavens to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs and seasons, and for days and years; - Genesis 1:14.

    It is not only the lights that he assigned their role or ministry in creation, he did to other elements of nature which he created, and we would later see in the Psalms 17, we would see that as nature adheres to her assigned ministry, they do so to the glory of God:

    The heavens declare the glory of God; And the firmament shows His handiwork. Day unto day utters speech, And night unto night reveals knowledge. – Psalm 19:1-2.

    It is not the elements of nature alone that have been assigned ministries. Moving up in the hierarchy of God’s creation we look at the spirit beings that he also created and at this level of creation the scripture revealed to us spiritual being called angels, the same scripture also equips us with insights into their assigned ministry. Perhaps what best sums this up is revealed to us in by this passage:

    Are they not all ministering spirits sent forth to minister for those who will inherit salvation? – Hebrews 1:14.

    There is the need to understand the ministry that each has been assigned this would prevent the sort of ignorance displayed by the Pharisees, who supposed marriage and procreation takes place in heaven. Even more important about why we all need to pay close heed to our assigned ministry, is to prevent what happened to certain class of angels who did the scripture informed us did not keep their place, they over stepped their assigned roles and they were rightly judged and condemned.

    We belong to the class of spiritual being, made in the image of God, but equipped with a body to inhabit the terrestrial plane. While the other spirit being have celestial bodies, we on our part have been made special (something that still baffles the other spirit being), made unique by the Creator. He created us man, he made us male and female but he calls us man, he made us special because of the ministry he had in mind for us and we begin to see this from the ministry he assigned to the man he created:

    Then God blessed them, and God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it; have dominion over the fish of the sea, over the birds of the air, and over every living thing that moves on the earth- Genesis 1:28.

    But did He not make them one, Having a remnant of the Spirit? And why one? He seeks godly offspring. Therefore take heed to your spirit, And let none deal treacherously with the wife of his youth.- Malachi 2:15.

    Although God gave man the instruction to multiply and fill the earth, this was to be done in an orderly and organised manner. The institution of marriage is the platform which God has ordained for this to take place, and the institution of the family unit with God as the head of all the family units on earth. This is how he ordained for the filling of the earth with his glory is to happen.

    Man was given the ability to bring forth spiritual beings but with the ability to inhabit the terrestrial plane, he is the only one who can do this, angels cannot do this, hence they do not marry as Jesus pointed out.

    b. It is a covenant union between a man and a woman.

    Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Genesis 2:24.

    The mystery of the union of marriage can only be unravelled if we can unravel the mystery of the Trinity. The message here is that although God created them male and female, it is in this union the creature he called ‘man’ finds it’s wholeness and completeness. I must stress, it was never a union between two males or between two females, whether consenting or not, such an arrangement makes a mockery of what the holy institution of marriage represents. It must be stressed that this new form union that appears to be gaining ground is nothing but the contraption of man, and it is nothing but the rebellion of man against God.

    Two males or females claiming to be married may be so on the surface of things, but they would never become one, even common sense tells us this, that it takes negative and positive coming together to produce light. In this case common sense from nature tells us that for the purpose of procreation it takes a male and female coming together, becoming one in the process before the union can bring forth an offspring.

    c. It is a covenant union that is binding upon the man and his wife for their entire life on earth.

    And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” – Mathew 19:9.

    For the LORD God of Israel says That He hates divorce, For it covers one’s garment with violence,” Says the LORD of hosts. “Therefore take heed to your spirit, That you do not deal treacherously.” – Malachi 2:16.

    If they have become one flesh, and if only in this union does the created man find wholeness as well completeness in the plans and purposes of God, then it makes every sense that God should hate divorce. This is rightly so because it threatens the very foundation of what his plans represents as revealed to us through the laws of Genesis.

    You may say but the scripture verse did  put the clause whereby a man or woman may divorce their partner if such is caught in sexual immorality or adultery? True but then this is what Jesus meant when he said divorce came about as a result of man’s sinful and stubborn nature. This was the reason why he reminded them that in the beginning it was not so. What is implied by in the beginning? Well we simply see that in the beginning God made them one, in the beginning we see the true meaning of marriage.

    As such anyone going into marriage must have this at the back of their mind to guide and direct them. The position of God has never changed and would never change. There are reasons why he made them one, there are reasons why he frowns at divorce, only those who have gone through the pains of divorce can best tell or give an insight into what God was trying to spare his creation. The truth is the consequences of divorce remains and it would not change.