Saturday 18 Nov 2017
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John 6:49 -50

Your forefathers ate the manna in the desert, yet they died. But here is the bread that comes down from heaven, which a man may eat and not die.

 

About relationships...

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Genesis 13:8-9 Then Abram said to Lot, “Let there be no strife between you and me, and between your herdsmen and my herdsmen, for we are kinsmen. Is not the whole land before you? Separate yourself from me. If you take the left hand, then I will go to the right, or if you take the right hand, then I will go to the left.”

As humans, relationships play an essential part in our day to day well being in our sojourn here on earth, and they go a long way towards shaping our life be it in a positive or negative way. 

As humans, we are relational being, no man is an Island unto himself, we simply cannot do without relationships in our lives, we were not created to live without one. A good relationship can enrich us in many ways beyond our wildest dreams, enriching our lives in so many ways. Perhaps it is because of this benefit that many would jump into any form of relationship or continue to keep a relationship that is long overdue for a review. Many find themselves in a relationship that is destroying them and taking them nowhere, yet the way they hang unto these sort of relationships gives the impression their life depends on them, even when it is obvious to everyone that the relationship is sucking this life out of them.

We must ask ourselves when does a relationship get to the point of review? Well we begin to ask questions along this line when it becomes a hindrance either by strife or by inadequacy of compatibility or defilement by association. It is sheer folly for a Judge or magistrate to continue to nurture a childhood relationship when that childhood friend has turned into a crime boss, it defeats the whole essence of human relationship. Such a relationship has become a distraction, an unneeded baggage that will only slow you down in the quest to attain to your appointed destination in life or even prevent you from getting to your destination.

The question arises at what point does a relationship get to this level and how does one conduct this form of exercise? The question arises why are you in this relationship, what is the purpose and benefit of this relationship? What are you contributing and what are you taking from it, is the relationship building you up or is it pulling you down? Is it helpful or destructive, will it bring you honor or shame? is the relationship taking you towards your goal in life or it is taking you nowhere or worse, is it taking you away from your destination? As christians, is the relationship taking us to heaven or to hell? Are there reconciliable differences or have your interests become so wide apart such that strife is the only recurring event in the union? 
As the scripture rightly pointed out, can two work together unless they are in agreement? We need to understand that relationships exist for a reason, Eve was a companion meet for Adam, she was his bone and flesh, God called Abraham into a clearly defined relationship, even as he calls us into a well meaning and clearly defined relationship in Christ. Iron sharpening iron is how the scripture defines the relationship between friends, but when one iron begins to make blunt the other, such relationship is due for a review and overhaul. The benefit of having a friend in time of need is that they be there to encourage and to render help, but when that is not the case, such a relationship is due for a review. 

Giving up on a relationship is painful, but what is more painful or more damaging is when a relationship that has outlived its usefulness is still being nurtured. We can only see this grave danger when we understand that what we become in life, where we get to in life and the road that led us to where we are today is shaped by the relationships we have given ourselves to.


Finally giving up a relationship does not mean you become enemies, it simply means you re-priotise the time and resources committed to them, as Christians we take a cue from Samuel when he said of Israel, "far be it from me that i should cease to pray for you".. When Abraham heard that Lot had been taken captive, he came to his rescue, as christians we are committed to the way of love, sacrificial love that continously seek after the well being of others, but we are also equipped with wisdom for daily living.